She’s Your Fitrah: Reflections on the Journey Within

What I’ve Learned About Heart Purification After Two Years

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Khalisa
November 21, 2025 • Estimated Reading Time: 6 minutes

She’s Your Fitrah Series Recap:

Week 1 — We asked big duas, determined where our starting point is, and where we truly want to be.
Week 2 — We talked about who we need to be to step into our “impossible” duas.
Week 3 — We chose to commit to ihsan, feeding our higher selves, and emotional regulation.
Week 4 — We focused on aligning with Allah’s promises with yaqeen, radical tawakkul, and a privileged mindset.

Week 5 — We looked at how Allah ﷻ defines success

Week 6 — We talked about living in the end and embodying the woman you’re praying to become before your duas arrive.

Week 7 — We defined stillness and how to live it.

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I first started writing this post as a list of obstacles you’re likely to encounter when working to change what’s within yourself. It included symptoms, what to strengthen, even some book and surah recommendations. But sorry, it felt too flat. Too generic. Too “do this, then do that,” or “if you’re feeling ___, do ___.”

After two years of consistent heart work, I can tell you now that no list or any actionable steps you find online will teach you better than Allah ﷻ.

The real journey happens when you stop looking for a template and start observing and listening to the challenges in your life, asking Allah ﷻ the tough questions about how to navigate them, and then removing the distracting clutter that makes it hard to hear Al-Mujeeb’s responses. That is literally all there is to it.

With every struggle, Allah ﷻ is inviting you to turn to Him, to ask Him, and to listen. Purification is not a matter of “doing more” or “fixing faster.”

It’s about positioning Al-Hakeem as the true teacher of your life. He is the only One who can respond to your questions in a way that is perfectly tailored to you. All I can offer is advice from my experience and support as a sister walking the deen alongside you. Alhamdulillah, that is the beauty of tawheed, knowing that As-Samad alone holds all that you need to get close to Him, to navigate this temporary life, and to return to your fitrah over and over again.

“Left unattended, the heart becomes encrusted. Unwholesome deeds accumulate and take away its purity. But with consistent work on self-purification, the heart becomes cleansed and is kept that way.”

– Shaykh Hamza Yusuf

Honestly, rereading the past articles in this series will likely benefit you more than the post I was originally going to send.

They hold reminders of what we have already explored together: slowing down, presence in worship, etting go of what you cannot control, having certainty in His promises, and trusting Allah ﷻ with your heart, your bold duas, and your future.

Still, there are a few things I feel compelled to gently stress, not as instructions, but as soft reminders from experience:

  • A day that feels “just fine” is a blessing. The chase for novelty can blind you to gratitude. Instead, look for micro-adventures in your weekly rhythm. There are so many opportunities for new experiences in your everyday life—you just have to be open to seeing them.

  • Do not neglect the Qur’an. If you’re looking for a way to connect with other Muslims who reflect deeply on it, join Quran Reflect. I post there regularly, follow me.

  • Track your habits. Not for the sake of completion, but to notice inconsistencies, appreciate your resources, stay on track in your growth, and most importantly, to see proof of how far you’ve come.

  • Sloooow down. Soften into your days. Accept boredom as part of the process, then fill the space it creates with the attributes and actions Allah ﷻ loves.

  • Create a list of reminders, ayat, and quotes to read daily. Let it reinforce who you are and who you’re embodying. I update mine monthly next to my habit tracker so it’s always visible (reading it is even one of my habits that I track).

  • Remember yourself. Your needs, your rights, your energy, your heart. A rested Muslimah serves better.

  • Let Allah ﷻ surprise you. You can’t spoil the surprise, so stop trying.

  • When in doubt, stick to patience and truth.

I pray this series has been of some benefit to you. So much has shifted in my heart and life over these two years, and especially in the past eight weeks. I’ll share more about what’s changed at a later date, in sha Allah.

In the meantime, take care of your heart.

With love and dua,
—Khalisa

  1. The Ideal Muslimah: The True Islamic Personality of the Muslim Woman as Defined in the Qur’an and Sunnah — Dr. Muhammad Ali al‑Hashimi

  2. Allah Loves … — Omar Suleiman

  3. The Fundamentals of Tawheed — Dr. Bilal Philips

  4. Fortress of the Muslim (Hisnul Muslim) — Saʿīd bin Wahf al‑Qahtani

  5. Heart Therapy: Forty Hadiths in Tazkiyah and Soul Purification — Dr. Ali Albarghouthi

  6. The Book of Knowledge (Kitāb al‑ʿIlm) — Imam Al‑Ghazali

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